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A homeless man strolled past me the other day as I filled up my vehicle with gas. Pushing a  shopping cart loaded with what appeared to be all his worldly possessions, the man was dirty, unshaven, and his long hair hadn’t likely seen a brush or comb in weeks. As I stood there, silently bitching about the cost of gasoline, I couldn’t help but wonder what tragedy had befallen him. Lay-off? Drug problem? Mortgage crisis? Mental health issues? The possibilities, in today’s world, seemed endless. Surely, I thought, this man had to be miserable.

Then, a funny thing happened.

He began to whistle.

Not just any whistle, but a heartfelt, Whistle While You Work kind of tune. Like he hadn’t a care in the world. Life was good. Nothing wrong.

There I stood, in Canada where I own a summer home, at five o’clock on a beautiful August morning, fed, clothed, loved and healthy, silently griping about the hundred-plus dollars it cost to fill up the beast that is my husband’s pick-up truck. Yes, I should have been the one whistling.

But I wasn’t.

And he was.

It’s all about attitude and Mr. Whistling Homeless Man could teach us all a thing or two.

© Robin Cain, 2012

http://www.robincain.com

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An AWESOME blogger friend has passed on the Kreativ Blogger award to me and I’m deeply honored. When I consider her talent, I’m particularly flattered she would even think of me. Thank you, Guilie Castillo-Oriard.

Now pay attention, readers. Guilie is an amazing writer, so if you’re not following her, you’re completely missing out. From her short stories to her soon-to-be-published novel (yes, Guilie, I’m certain!), Guilie will touch your heart with her words. Trust me on this.

Here are two of her more recent publications at Fiction 365 :

Mischievous Moonlight
Faithless

So. Kreativ Blogger award.

Here is what’s involved, four hoops that I must jump through. The first, most important, is to thank my awarder and link to her (done, but in case you missed it: Guilie Castillo-Oriard.

Then I must answer these ten questions:

Ready, set, go –

What’s your favorite song?
Anyone who knows me knows the answer to this question. Well, favorite artist anyway – DAVE MATTHEWS! No brainer. Now, favorite song? Hmmm… so many from which to choose. American Baby? Sleep To Dream Her? Crash? Lover Lay Down? Nope, can’t pick just one. Kind of like walking into a Baskin Robbins. So many flavors, so little time…

What’s your favorite dessert?
Dessert, by its very name, is my favorite. Enough said.

What ticks you off?
Ah, another long list. Racism. Whiney people. Rudeness. Mean people. Being lied to. (That’s a BIG one!) Small minds. Entitlement attitudes. Pettiness. Laziness.

What do you do when you’re upset?
Really, really upset? Oh, that’s easy. I cry. My emotions reside under a very fine layer of skin, in a water-based solution. Sad, happy, upset, angry, touched? Expect me to get teary.

Which is your favorite pet?
Every pet I’ve ever had or currently own. Or even ones my friends have owned. I like animals nearly more than I like people.

Which do you prefer, black or white?
I actually much prefer shades of gray. Nothing is ever black or white, is it?

What’s your biggest fear?
Being unable to find a solution to a problem.

What’s your attitude, mostly?
I believe one’s happiness is their own responsibility, so my attitude is one of gratitude, optimism and hope.

What is perfection?
To find happiness in any given moment is perfection.

What’s your guilty pleasure?
Spending money on myself.

10 random facts about myself (Drumroll, please…):

1) I have a very hard time with funerals. If it’s someone I loved dearly, I don’t want the ceremony to be my last memory. If it’s someone I knew casually, I’ll still sob harder than any relative present. It’s absolute torture for me and my presence can bring no one comfort. Too emotional, too much of a thinker, I just fall apart at the seams. I probably need some kind of therapy for this…

2) When I love someone, I love them forever. Love, by its very nature – at least in my heart – is just that kind of commitment.

3) I love my own company. Many people I know can’t stand being alone for more than a few hours. I, on the other hand, go into sensory overload after hours with more than a few people. Call me easily amused.

4) On that same note, I usually don’t mingle at parties. I pick one or two spots and stay there. I’ve discovered, by the end of the night, I’ve managed to speak to everyone who was interested and interesting. I despise small talk, so why inflict it on myself or others? Conversation should be driven by desire, not guilt or obligation.

5) I have a weakness for fine hotels and fabulous Sunday Brunches. Put the two together and I’m in nirvana.

6) I am a fanatical saver of paperwork. I have a 5-drawer filing cabinet, which, literally, contains the history of my life. In my defense, it’s saved not only my life on several occasions, but my husband’s, as well.

7) I hate to have my picture taken. I’m just NEVER pleased with the results. Want proof? Take a look at my driver’s license photo. Think Charlyse Theron in her MONSTER role…

8) I don’t believe inherited wealth is ever a good thing. Having never met a person whose ambition was improved by a trust, I don’t think parents passing along fortunes to their children are doing them any favors. And children who fight over parents’ estates just piss me off to no end… Entitlement is such an ugly word.

9) Don’t ever try to push my head under water. I will get inordinately angry and likely try to kill you. Don’t say your weren’t warned.

10) I rarely answer my phone. Text me, email me, leave me a message – I’ll get back to you as soon as I finish this thought. Promise.

And these are my nominees for the Kreativ Blogger award because they stand out to me for one reason or another.

In no particular order:

L.J. Sellers, one of the hardest working indie authors I know. She sets the bar for the rest of us.

Ben Shipley, truly one of the greatest wordsmiths I’ve ever had the pleasure to know. He honors me with his wisdom, insight and friendship. His encouragement ain’t bad either.

Bob Sanchez , one of my newly discovered ‘great authors’. He deserves a huge audience.

Rick Bylina, he entertains my writing group with his dry humor on nearly a daily basis, he’s a good writer and a darn good book reviewer.

Holly Michael, who has previously won this award, but deserves another shout-out for her talent and tenacity. Another great writer you might want to check out.

I expect none of you to pass this award along. My intent is to drive traffic to your site, not unduly burden you with work. Your option to keep it going – or not. If you do, here are the rules, as they were passed along to me:

— thank the awarder, link back to them
— answer the ten questions above
— share ten random facts about yourself
— pass it on to seven other bloggers (or as many as you have energy for. Don’t make me look like the only loser!)

Thank you for your attention. That is all.

P.S. No, this had nothing to do with solving all the world’s problems. …Or did it?

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With the recent release of my book, WHEN DREAMS BLEED, and the upcoming Valentine’s Day holiday, I thought I would sponsor a contest!

Details are as follows:

WHO: Open to any of my Facebook friends or fans (writers or not). NO RELATIVES, please.

WHAT: Essay, Poem or Flash Fiction less than 850 words – entitled


    “WHAT TO DO WHEN DREAMS BLEED”

WHERE: Submit to: robin@robincain.com
Subject line: WHAT TO DO WHEN DREAMS BLEED

WHEN: No later than noon (MST) Tuesday, February 9th

WHY: Don’t we all just need more exposure?

Prizes:

1st place
– $50.00 AMAZON Gift Certificate
– Publication of your winning entry on my column at the Examiner to go along with a Valentine’s Day article I will be writing (1000+ readers at last count!)
(includes personal link to your website or book site)
– Autographed copy of my book, WHEN DREAMS BLEED
– Publicity on my Facebook page and blog (3800 friends and counting!)

2nd Place:
– $15.00 AMAZON Gift Certificate
– Autographed copy of my book, WHEN DREAMS BLEED
– Publicity on my Facebook page and blog (3800 friends and counting!)

3rd Place
– Autographed copy of my book, WHEN DREAMS BLEED
– Publicity on my Facebook page and blog (3800 friends and counting!)

Fine Print:
– All decisions are final
– Contest null and void if less than 3 entries are received (and I quit being nice!)
– All authors retain the rights to their submission (but permission for publication w/credit on above-mentioned sites is assumed).
– Prizes will sent out after Valentine’s Day, but press will begin when winners are selected.

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It’s been a long while since I put anything on this blog, but all for good reasons.  Besides traveling, trying to finish my synopsis, edit my novel, network, research, maintain a business, and live my life, I’ve begun writing articles for an online news magazine of sorts.  You can find my stuff at https://www.examiner.com/x-16469-Scottsdale-Relationships-Examiner

What I thought would be a good way to get my name out there and get some practice at wrting on deadlines has turned into quite the little time consuming sideline. I don’t know if it’s my unending relentless need to find just the perfect words or my just not being used to writing on such a variety of subjects, but I am spending HOURS on this gig! And, needless to say, it’s akin to doing charity work.  But I digress…

I am discovering  this passion is turning into a pretty serious addiction. I’d rather spend hours in search of the perfect words than just about anything else I can think of (well, at least anything I can print here).  What is it they say – a bad day of golf is better than a good day of work? Well, for me, a bad day of writing is better than just about anything. I just hope it all pays off one day so I can look back on all this time spent and laugh at myself for ever questioning its value.

Please stop by examiner.com and let me know someone is reading my perfect words, will you?

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